I know this time of year, everyone encourages you to be grateful for the good in your life. Vacation, by their very definition, should be a time of reflection and gratitude.
So how could this time of year sometimes be mad all? Relatives to visit, parties to attend, extra food to make, visitors, and do not forget
I grew up not celebrating the holidays for religious reasons. That’s right, NO vacation. So I was in an interesting position … I’ve got so far off but no additional stress or obligation.
My coworkers who know this used to tell me how lucky I am. I remember thinking, “How sad is that?” Here they wait all year for this time of year and not when it arrived, the stress exceeds excitement.
When I left the religion, I wonder how my old beliefs to come together with my new confidence – especially around the holidays. Would I be okay with giving gifts (yes!), Eating turkey on Thanksgiving (no problem there!), Christmas tree at my home (so far, no).
One thing I realized I wanted was a part of the traditional holiday – more time with family and friends, have fun finding gifts that “perfect” for someone – but do not want the stress and flooding experienced by the people around me. The question is “Is it possible?”
Apparently, yes. However, I’ve had to be very strategic about it. Here are my tips to survive the holiday paket bulan madu karimunjawa – despite me being a beginner!
GIFT GIVING – One thing I’ve done in the past, and will never do again, is to buy a gift for someone paralyzed just because I “have to”. It felt forced and depriving me of the warm and fuzzy feeling of giving in the first place. Really there is more happiness in giving than in receiving – when I found out that perfect gift for someone.
Now when I do not find the perfect gift, whether it simply means “oh well, too bad for you.” I think that would not go over well because reciprocity is the un-written rule of gift giving throughout the year. So my solution is to buy a gift that is less than perfect? I better make one of their favorite treats (chocolate, sugar cookies, etc.) or offer to take them out for lunch or dinner (on me) during the holiday season when they need a break. What a better offer than the gift of time and attention?
“ME” TIME VS. “US” TIME – One of the reasons I think people are so crazy during this holiday season there is so much time spent tend to others. I know there are many women who love the holiday only for this reason but admitted to feeling a little dull after it ended.
It’s important to balance the time you spend with other people with the time you spend with yourself. Vacations are supposed to refresh us and give us more energy, not drain us. And if we always give to others, but do not “fill up our tanks” eventually we will run empty.
I have some “me” time into a ritual so I stay grounded during the holidays. (* Note:.! If you have children, I realize these suggestions will take a little more creativity to implement But that is not an excuse to do something for yourself)
The day after Thanksgiving – (! That should be a legal holiday by the way) For those who have Friday off after Thanksgiving, since Thursday is likely to spend with lots of relatives and friends, Friday is a big day for some time. Years ago, I checked into Bristol Harbour Resort (empty and cheaper because of the holiday) and spend days and nights reading, sleeping, hiking, and sat by the fire in absolute calm. No TV, no phone, no computer. It was weird unsettling at first. It was only then that I realized how “noisy” life has become.
New Year’s Day – Now some people may not be in a condition to do the “heavy lifting” after imbibing the night before, but since I’m not a big drinker, I dedicate this day to contemplation – where I’ve been, where I’m at and where I want go. I reflect on the past year and I wrote as follows: top 25 achievements of the year, 10 disturbances (AHA always great to me here) and my top 10 goals for the coming year. For me, it is the perfect way to start the new year.